Wednesday, 29 January 2014

Let's Talk About Long Distance Relationships


Beyond the first few months of giddy affection and the feeling of butterflies, few, if any, romantice relationships are easy. Sure, some look that way, but that's usually because two willing people are putting in all the work behind the scenes.
Long distance relationships are even more dfifficult to maintain, and they can fail for numerous reasons. Many long distance relationships certainly succeed, but they require careful navigation from the people involved to steer thorugh the obstacles brought on by geography.
Long distance relationships are not just inter-country, they are also inter-city.
Many couples have long distance relationship because of circumstances beyond their control. Others choose it because they feel that they function better apart and they don't want a partner that will be all up in their face.
Long distance relationships typically does not have the best track record, but the fact remains that some long distance relationships can and do last. Steps to take before venturing into a long distance relationship vary with the type of induviduals involved. Things like level of trust, priorities, goals, beliefs, maturity, etc come into play.

Communication is one of the fundamentals of any successful relationship. It is also the foundation of any successful long distance relationship. It is one of the most vital aspects of keeping a long distance relationship alive.

Trust is highly essential in any relationship. To make a long distance relationship work, a higher level of trust has to be attained by both parties. It tends to be difficult if a partner is insecure or has had trust issues, or even still has them.
You have to establish a sense of trust and at the same time, maintain your fidelity amd honesty in the relationship.

Respect ypur partner. Do not get jealous to the extent of keeping tabs on all his/her movement. No one likes to be monitored.

The couple has to have a set time for their reunion. Maybe forthnightly or monthly. Setting a time and a goal for our reuniom will provide hope for your relationship, and in turn, solidify the promises made before separating.

Being in a long distance relationship is not a natural situation, so it needs to be treated with a fresh, unique outlook.

Some people in long distance relationships see it as an oppotunity for them to be free to do anything they want to do without being questioned. 
Others in long distance relationships see themselves as 'single' the moment they separate from their partners. 

Does being physically apart drive people emotionally apart? 
Do things stay the way they used to be before the separation? 
How do you maintain your long distance relationship? 
Feel free to share. 


2 comments:

  1. Long distance relationships are hard work rarely last, but, it takes two to make it work. Out of sight is not necessarily out of mind. The two major 'ingredients' needed to make it work are communication and Trust. Without these the relationship is doomed!

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